Testing for scale
MILAP: Reducing Domestic Violence when Women Can’t Leave
We invited the mother-in-law.
ProblemA woman experiencing domestic violence often can’t leave. Social norms, money, and real fear about safety (both for herself and her children) keep her stuck with an abusive husband. If our only offer is “leave him,” violence doesn’t stop.
SolutionTalking to people in the community, we found that violence-free homes often had a supportive mother-in-law. So we carefully built a new intervention, MILAP (meaning “reunion/reconciliation” in Nepali). We first bring the mother-in-law in to shield the woman from family violence. Then we bring the husband and teach him communication and emotion regulation skills. I’ve never met a husband who calls himself a perpetrator (this includes men in jail for domestic violence). But they’re interested in improving their communication skills and regulating emotions. So we start there.
StatusIn 61 families, depression and violence both fell. A local leader told me that fewer women were coming to the women’s shelter she runs. Her team checked on their own and confirmed that violence had dropped. We’re now testing MILAP with 300 families.




